Kimberly.

This entry is dedicated to my friend Katrina.

My friend Katrina is a complete sweet heart. I am so fortunate to have known her through college and we have just stayed in touch constantly. She is absolutely ridiculous in a drunken, crazy, fun, weird, and loving way. Katrina is one of a kind (in a great way ps!!) She met this guy Henry on my birthday actually :) and he went to the same school as us as well. He is a year older than us and works in the business field. Seemed like a nice guy and obviously a bunch of drinks later the exchanging of phone numbers allowing with saliva occurred. They stayed in touch and would see each other randomly and rendezvous! Katrina didn't have the same feelings for Henry as Henry did for Katrina..So long story short- They met up at the college drinking function went back to Katrinas place and did some heavy make outing. Katrina's roommates enter and start screaming at the poor guy and kicked him out. Henry has a really bad temper and attitude in fact it has shown in the past. He yelled at all three and told Katrina that she was a bitch along with her roommates and for her not to contact him again. One of the roommates broke his sunglasses by snapping it in half. Afterwards Katrina was distressed and was hysterically crying. A couple weeks go by and she gchats me and says "I want to call him and apologize for everything...and to set the record straight that I'm not like the roommates" and I simply replied with "don't do it..trust me it will make you look desperate in this situation and plus he isn't good enough." Ladies- we've all been in that situation regardless of what your best friends, god, your talking cat and dog says you don't listen to them because you do what YOU want to do. I've been there and done that. You learn from you mistake. Well, Katrina being the nice soul she is...bought Henry a new pair of sunglasses for a mere $90. And texts me to tell me this. I told her she was crazy and she shouldn't do it. Why? Because if this guy was a GOOD guy he would come forth and say listen what happened the other night wasn't cool and I don't appreciate any of it. And if he really cared enough he would make the effort. I don't like Henry as you can tell.

Work today was low key. Like I said in previous entry my boss was in a good mood once again. Amber today e-mails me and says "you've been awfully quiet..is everything ok??" And I just want to say "no its not ok..in fact I'm so sick and tired of watching you and Jessie giggle about some inside joke..I feel like I'm in the flipping seventh grade again." Its like those cool girls and you just want to be like them..buy the same clothes, flip your hair the way they have it and even practice their demeanor. But instead I said "no nothing is wrong just busy with work" MOTHER F'ER called me out and said "thats a lie...we all have the same work load and its been slow...haha." umm ok how the hell do you respond to THAT? So I quickly changed the subject... I have been pretty good and not taking it personal. But its rough.

I went for a good run today around Central Park and now I am so sore. I struggled at first but then picked up my pace and really found my breathing pattern. Central Park makes me appreciate the nature and how beautiful it really is. I run around the reservoir and it looks all the way to the upper west side around 96th street. Breath taking its water and sky scrapers together..I should take a picture one of these days. But as I was running I was doing some thinking (wow a first right??) and it hit me! I can meet guys on-line via match.com. But what about my friends?? I realized that I really don't have that many friends here and how I WANT a close group of girlfriends. This is the first time in my life really that I don't have a set group of girlfriends I can call and say hey wanna grab a meal or maybe a cup of joe?? I've put myself out there for instance- when I was at the gym there was a girl in front of me and her pants were completely see through when stretching and she had a bright pink thong. So after class I told her and introduced myself and asked where she was from. She thanked me and told me..then walks away. So much for befriending a new person at the gym! Homegirl probably thought I was hitting on her!

I need to start going to my meetup.com groups. I just don't know where else I can meet people..work is impossible because of the double mint twins. The other girls that I am friends with seem to be involved with their own lives and well I can only do but some much right?

Nothing new today on match. I think I scared off sean...maybe I am too mean? I legit can't do anything this weekend and I may have to cancel on Mark because of my family coming to visit. Should I send him a message saying listen I hope you didn't take my previous message to heart because I do have a legitimate reason...ugh!! Whatever. I don't care enough. Cracker winked at me..I can't if he is one of those creepy guys because pictures kinda have weird but then CUTE ones?? I guess I should wink back. What is up with this winking thing??

I feel like I just need to be patient with everything I do and in my life. Things take time and I am slowly adjusting my lifestyle with New York. Its been a bumpy road thus far. But I guess I should buckle up and put on a helmet. Speaking of helmet I've decided that one day I am going to be THAT person that rollerblades in Central Park. Not only will I be rollerblading- but I will also be wearing a helmet, BRIGHT PINK biking shorts, with matching top and more importantly elbow and knee pads! I will be picking up men left and right :).

Spoiled!!!!!!!!!!

Today at work was actually really nice surprisingly! My boss was really happy AND nice. Quite refreshing. I was given more responsibility today which is good because that means my superiors believe in me now. The most mortifying thing happened to me. So I listen to Pandora and one of my ALL time favorites came on This Will Be An Everlasting Love. For those of you that don't know me personally I jam out hard core ie: bopping of the head, mouthing of words, and more importantly dancing. My college dance professor (one time class) called me Hurricane Katrina because I was all over the place :) (shout out to Bradley!) My office is an open space and we have no cubicles...stupid I KNOW! Well my boss and her boss were discussing some matters and I receive an IM that said "sing it loud and proud!" I look to my right and everyone is watching me. I can feel my face turn bright red. My bosses boss said I was Tina Turner while highlighting and doing Excel spreadsheets. Gah.

And another thing about my boss- hilarity ensues. She comes over to my desk and sit down in a serious manner

and says "when you send e-mails to the client you should not have an exclamation marks in it. It is not a hip hip hooray message nor is it an angry e-mail. And I'm not a fan of exclamation marks. It has to be worthy of it in order for me use it." She is looking me dead in the eye when saying this. I am trying so hard not to laugh because I LOVE EXCLAMATION MARKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She clearly is an unhappy person. How can you not love them??

Tonight we had a client dinner which is always a nice treat! We went to the Waverly Inn and I've never been before. First off, the ambience of the place was AMAZING! So warm and cozy. Secondly, food was phenomenal. I ordered this shortrib entree and for an appetizer I had octopus salad. I am drooling thinking about my food. We all shared truffle macaroni and cheese along with truffle french fries. I LOVE TRUFFLES. Needless to say had it not been a client dinner I probably could not afford it. Sadly to say.

Sooo I have three dates lined up! Woo. I guess things are slowly looking up??

I am meeting Mark tentatively on Sunday. Date number two! I guess I didn't scare him off yet.

OAR on either Wednesday or Thursday. I can't tell if he is that cute..not trying to sound superficial by any means. But sometimes I feel like pictures don't do it justice. Seems like a nice guy.

Sean sometime next week as well! He is so funny! Here is our most recent conversation:

Sean: hmm, after reviewing your answers (painting yourself as a grouchy, humorless horse), you sound like a Perfect match for me! Would you be free sometime this weekend? either to grab a drink or some food?

Me: Did you ever watch Sesame Street growing up? I'm Oscar. I can't meet this weekend I'm so sorry! It's because your too nice of a guy...Just kidding hahaha! I already have plans. But next week?

YAAAY Peace Corp guy messaged me back!! And I was thinking he wasn't interested. We are basically the same person in the same position ie- new to NYC and trying to figure things out. He wants to start talking on the phone...which I find kinda weird? I mean I would much rather go on an actual date rather then sitting around and having a phone conversation. What would we discuss about? The weather? I mean when your on an actual date you can talk about anything and feed off each others actions/body language. But on the phone thats weird...I'm an awkward person and well weird too. But I do have to admit I love talk to my girlfriends on the phone and I'm sure as hell good at it too :).

Whimsical

Today was a slow day at work which was nice. My boss was a bit nicer and I don't really have much complaints in that department. My friend Sarah who works on a different account than me..we had a great discussion about my job. I currently work for a traditional division and would like to switch over to the technological field..we both agreed that I should switch over in a few months. However, by doing so I will need to speak with my boss..which is a conversation I AM NOT looking forward too. Can you imagine what it would be like? She would probably eat my head off and then spit it back out.

I went to the gym for the first time in a while WOO! I know no more complaining. It was beyond what I needed..I feel so much better about myself and I treated myself with half a cupcake :). I chatted with Andrea Tutu tonight and as always the conversation was great! She's my better half and we talk about random things but its just nice hearing her voice :). So in the midst of eating my cupcake prior to my conversation with Andrea Tutu...I received a lovely text message from Mark! He said "Hey I was wondering if you be interested in getting together again sometime??" Sooooo date number two. We struggled a bit trying to figure out a day because I have plans this weekend and he isn't available on Thursday evening. Which I question- is he going on another date? And it took him about 2 hours to respond to my text message..was he on a date? I mean those are legit questions. So we decided on a day at the end however, I'm in charge of picking them place. GREAT.

Match.com is struggling at the moment...I haven't heard back from the Peace Corp OR Erick. Its ok though I'll survive. Looking back I feel like Erick doesn't understand my sense of humor...I replied with a dry sarcastic way. I guess I shouldn't be like that huh? And Peace Corp guy I specifically asked questions back like he did to me!! Oar guy asked me to do drinks...we shall see how that goes. And another thing...I replied to this guy and he never responded back..uh YEAH he was on an hour ago?!?!?! Wtf.... seriously? FML moment.

And on that note I shall leave you with an interesting story line I found in a magazine:

45 MPH was the speed a woman was driving while shaving her crotch and crashed into a pole in Florida. (Crazy cats I tell ya.)

Phat

God do you remember that word "phat" and all the cool kids would say "man thats so phat!" well tonight peeps..I FEEL FAT not PHAT but mildly obese. I have no self control when it comes to food. Tonight I had a client dinner and we ordered appetizers and I gorged myself into oblivion and then on top of that I ate my whole entree. Fatty? I know.

So this is going to be a somewhat gross topic but I think it needs to be addressed. I think it is absolutely disgusting AND rude when people do not clean up after themselves in the bathroom. It is so gross to see what people do after they are finished with their business. We aren't 5 years old anymore people and believe it or not there is a button you press to FLUSH. Or maybe if you decide to squat (which is what I do) do piss all over the seat. I always make sure the next person has a pleasant time when I'm done. Its disgusting to have to look at each stall to make sure its usable!! We are grown ups. Seriously!!

Ok so I've decided to make myself feel better about Match.com I've come up with this logic. I am technically blind dating..only my friends aren't the ones setting me up. I am :). So see blind date is the same thing as match.com! Violaaa!

Erik- aka peace corp guy messaged me back! Eeeek! :):)

"Its great to hear back from you. I hope you had a decent weekend. Its cool to meet someone else who is new to nyc especially being that you are from the south. How are you liking it here so far? What type of work do you do? I am trying to get started in international trade and am currently brokering ethanol, but might reverse commuting to Connecticut soon and doing operations for trading group up there." (Ok first off great on the questions! He wants to get to know me secondly, seem soo nice and genuine! No worries def responded!)

Sean- Asian guy seems to be quite on par with his humor and personality. I like it already! he said-

"Whew! Thanks for letting me pass. I was sure I was missing the most important criteria, but thankfully you let me slide...

Now for my extensive checklist...

A) do you like to smile?
B) can I make you smile?
C) do you eat quietly w your mouth closed?
D) would you like to meet up w me sometime and hangout?"

TOO PRESH! Like him already and I gave him quite the sarcastic replies hahaha :)

I only received two messages..how sad is that?? I feel so lame...thats kinda lonely...

Weekend/DATE night

So I went back down South for the weekend...and it was a much needed break from the hectic non-stop life here in New York City. It was fantastic seeing my close friends and family and catching up more importantly. What made this visit extra special was my brother coming home! We surprised my mother which was a treat :). She hasn't seen both her kids since well...Christmas how sad is that? I literally gained at least 5 lbs because I didn't stop eating. Let me tell you the life of me: So Saturday morning at 8:30 my father was pounding on my door. I am in a deep sleep and was so confused..woke up. And this is what he said to me "get up and get dressed we are going to Golden Corral for breakfast." For those of you that don't know what this Golden Corral is its a unlimited buffet...and it's no Plaza Hotel buffet. Its the reason why United State is so obese compared to other countries. It is an unlimited breakfast: sausage, eggs, biscuit and gravy, desserts, etc. So I went and my family/friends and ate the unlimited breakfast. I felt so full afterwards. I swear shopping down south is WAY much better than shopping here in nyc. The sales people are more pleasant, shopping experience is nicer and people AREN'T pushy!! I didn't want to come back how sad is that?? I love going home!!! My mother leaves the country in a couple weeks..butttt on a happier note my father is coming to visit!!! Yippeee!!

Ok- So Mark texted me on Thursday when I was back at home and said "Hope you have fun this weekend with your family!" And I got that once I landed and got off the plane. That was so sweet so I texted him on Saturday to see if we were still on for dinner on Sunday. And we were..soo when I landed back in NYC he texted me the location and time we would be meeting at. For those of you that know me quite well- I'm late..I'm always late to everything. God forbidden I am on time/early to something! Seriously its horrible I know. But this was a legitimate reason- I was waiting for the 6 train to go downtown! I was only 15 minutes late oopsies..and the worst part? I get there and this is the conversation with the host:

Host: Hi are you looking for your party?

Me: Yes I am.

Host: Well, who are you looking for?

Me: umm...can I see if they are there??

Host: You don't know what they look like?

Me: No I do...

Host: well here are some people on this level.

Me: (i'm looking over) oh he isn't here..

Host: are you sure??

Me: yup..(texting mark at this point to let him know i'm here)

Mark pops out of the crowd

Me: oh haha here is he..(thinking: shit..this is awkward...)

So we head onto a table and sit down to look at menu..and we are glancing at each other. Awkward..hahaha!! So he's wearing a Lacoste polo and isn't wearing a white undershirt...thats ok I mean he's a guy right? I've never seen that before...but he's a burly man. A little bit of gel in the hair....he could get away with being an italian guy. He's cute. I will give him that! So we decided to share an appetizer and get an entree (the dishes are large).

Conversation was great!! No complaints in that department. HOWEVER (goddamn it there is that awful word) his voice...he was not what I was expecting. Since he was a burly-er man I was expecting a deeper voice..and I am not saying he sounded like a girl. It was a bit...metro-ish. Sounded like Nathan Lane from The Birdcage (movie). At the beginning of the date I was trying so hard not to burst out laughing because I thought of that movie...and maintained my composure. Immature..I know!

Nonetheless, conversation was fluid and we had some great laughs, exchanged stories, talked about the good ole college days, discussed about our friends, and future summer plans. I give this a 3.5 to 4 out of 5 stars!

Here are some top Match.com stories! So before I left for home I had the balls to finally send out a bunch of messages to guys! I literally sat there and used the same line..and sent them out. Ok I should get some props for doing that lol. Its nerve racking!! I've sent out 15 e-mails and I've gotten 35 responses. Which is pretty good granted they may not be the one that I want to talk to...blah!

EU- Ok so he's a European guy..and I sent him a message saying how I loved his writing in his profile which was in all honesty! And I was thinking that could be a great conversation starter. Homeboy denied me and responded with "Thanks. Thats so kind of you to say so." I GET IT! He's Just Not That Into You!

Sean- another asian guy...really? Cute picture and his message was actually good! He said "of the 10 criteria you have listed, I think I'm missing one. Is this e-mail still valid :P" Kudos to you for a good opener and I shall respond!!

Oar- So he's a pretty decent looking guy...downside is that he has a receding hair line. And I can't tell what he will actually look like because each pic he looks different in!! But he said to me "I am a mind reader! When are you going to ask me for a drink :)?" So I guess I should respond right? Thats the nice thing to do..he seems decent. So we shall see! Responding! Check.

Latin- HE IS 46 YEARS OLD. Seriously match.com where is the age filter?? He wants to chat with me..ain't happening buddy! Lo siento senor.

Eric- AHHH I winked at him and he is SUPER cute, well established (he did peace corp in Africa), volunteers, seems to be very intelligent!! And this is what he said "Hey sorry I am just responding to your wink. It has been a crazy week and although I am definitely interested in getting to know you. Until now I haven't had a chance to get on here and respond. So what is your name? Are you from NY? If not where do you hail (he's so southern!!!!) from? I moved to NYC in December from Maryland and while I didn't particularly enjoy the winter here now that the weather is getting better I am really starting to enjoy and appreciate NY. I will be looking forward to hearing from you. Ciao" NO WORRIES MESSAGED BACK ALREADY!!!

Torpe- This guy is a creepier...I mean I thought Levi was nasty!! He said "Hello I am looking for good female friends to hang out, share nice conversation, laughs. I am not looking for relationships because I am gay. But just looking for platonic female friends." I went onto his profile and first off CREEPY picture, and secondly he is ONLY interested certain women. Gross.

Disappointment

So today I had two dates set up- 1) dinner with Mark and 2) drinks with matt

Well, work decided to pick up after our client lunch at ooh I don't know 2 PM. I was at the office till 8:30 and had to cancel on Mark and Matt. I was so bummed..I guess bad timing right? So I texted Mark..it was great convo but I guess I'm too much for him..He seems a bit shy? I'm not sure. I feel like I am really working him up to be like this great guy and its just going to be really disappointing..I need to like have low expectations when I see him!! And Matt well he just seems like a douche. But hey who knows!

My friend Bradley brought this to my attention...I told her that I was still at work and she goes "damn, last wednesday was just like this too. Sorry pal!" And that just brought back some memories...I had a date that night to go see Hot Tub Time Machine with this guy. And well had to cancel last minute on him too. My job is my relationship right now. How sad is that?


Today my boss was ridiculous...she had to go see the clients and was wearing jeans. Well, at my company when you go see clients you have to change into dressier clothing...she asks for a huge favor and she said "can you go out and buy me some black dress pants? Here is my credit card." Shes my boss and I can't say no. So I headed over to Bloomingdales and charged it! Weird right? Speaking of my boss...Its sometimes so frustrating dealing with her-its like she enjoys me tripping up or making mistakes because then she can yell at me. I secretly think she enjoys yelling at me how sad is that?

Amber and Jessie are still two peas in a pod! And I've slowly realized that it's not even worth it anymore for me to get so worked up about. Life's too short!

So I log onto Match.com today and a gentleman named Levi messages me and says "want to play?" now I went through his profile. What a douchebag as well! My god you are 30 years old and trying to really get with me? I'm sorry but I don't think so. I messaged him back and said "Really?" as in REALLY YOU SICK FUCK. HE REPLIES BACK TO ME "Cum over!!" and I don't reply THEN HE PROCEEDS to say "get in a cab :)" KEEPS GOING he says "you coming? kisses all over your body Andre" DISGUSTING done. good bye! What is this an on-line brothel?!?!?!

Last night was really ballsy for me!! I messaged guys ahhh! hahahaha well all of 3 lol! But one did reply OAR- He said "hey you seem like a really nice girl! are you new to the city?" He is that tall, goofy, and awkward kind of guy! My favorite :):)! So we will see.

Dave- "Hi I saw your profile..and I like what I see! So if your interested write back and we will go from there ;)" hahahaha ok corny VERY. Umm a bit more on the mature side and I'm not just saying his profile BUT LOOKS! One of my best friends Brittney is dating a guy that is 36 years old and she is so happy with him! He is a great guy and the best part he doesn't look nor act like his age. This guy on the other hand looks older than what he is saying..NEXT

NYCAZN- oh god..another asian! I don't discriminate at all. I love all ethnicities. He has good rapport and can keep a conversation flowing. However, the downside is he lives in Long Island...I don't do bridge and tunnel people (aka nj and LI) jk jk! Like i said i love everyone! Well he asked about my career, siblings, and actually had a good joke. He apparently lives in a predominately white building and the people have asked him "are you the asian delivery guy??" bahahahahaha! So lets see if he can handle me!

My friend Bianca really likes NYCAZN and says I need that awkward guy....how sad is that? god

Ok I think I'm slowly getting the hang of this Match.com business. I can't just sit there I gotta be proactive I feel like. This isn't like the real world...in order to land dates I gotta put myself out there errr...

Eye Catching

Tonight was grand! We had a client dinner and function afterwards...its always nice getting wined and dined!

Work wasn't too busy it was nice to be able to relax and go with the flow for once.

I had my first reject...I am slighly embarssed! I winked at this guy MTL and said "no thank you" HOW RUDE. Ok I just laugh it off when people wink at me because its awkward! But seriously no thank you?? NO OFFENSE you ain't that hot mister.

How am I suppose to optimize my match.com?? Like do I actually send people messages?? Is that what I'm suppose to do..in today's society we are taught that girls should start approaching guys and how men love it. But then down south its quite the opposite make the guys come to you. So am I suppose to sit there and wait for a guy to come approach me by winking or sending me a message?? What is the proper etiquette for this?

Indianguy IM's me tonight and I don't know how to ignore these damn IM's because I'm not INTERESTED! I don't respond and he says this "hey love your picture", "how are you", "I'm so tired...", "are you the shy type...??" umm if I haven't responded to you within I don't know 10 minutes that means I'm not in to you!!

Man- great guy, asian, seems really sweet, he is an engineer, lives in Brooklyn. This is his message to me I've shorten it because its a book- Hey! I've been wanting to do some touristy things and really learn about Manhattan/NYC. I've never really done the whole double decker, visit Coney/Ellis Island, The last couple of weekends I've been doing road trips and I recently went to Boston. I'm planning a trip to Washington D.C. your more than welcome to join...haha yeah I know we've never met but I'd give you the benefit of the doubt that you won't kill me hahaa! I'm a fire fighter at night to keep my mundane life interesting". Where do I even begin?? Oh I don't know that I've only spoken to you maybe two times and you want to do a road trip (7 hour car ride) with a girl you've never met. Not gonna lie seems kinda desperate? But lets be honest everyone on Match.com has some percentage of desperate in them...look at me lol! But no seriously...too soon!!! How the hell do I respond to this??

Ace- He said to me " I enjoyed viewing your profile. I enjoy spending time with close friends and family. I love to travel and take long road trips upstate for a weekend of camping and hiking. Not to mention places where its warm and tropical! My passion is cooking. Love to create all sorts of dishes. Making my friends laugh is a great thing. I love to tell jokes and make them laugh all the time. I love to go dancing at lounges. On a serious side, I have a strong family values and manners. Am a responsible person with a professional career. I am in search of a soul mate. Explore world together hand in hand! Hope to hear from you soon"
WOW. Deep e-mail as you can see. Seemed like a decent guy until I clicked on his profile...bald, has a landing strip on his CHIN. DONE moving on. GOOD LUCK SEARCHING!!!

I'm going on a date tomorrow evening with Mark. I'm a bit nervous..what happens if I'm not what he's expecting?? What happens if he isn't what I'm expecting?? I don't know what I'm wearing yet alone what about conversation topics?? I feel like this is high school dating again!!

Matt messaged me and to be quite honest he is getting to be too cocky. I told him the days I was available and how I will be going home. He said he loves people from where I am from and his days vary day by day. Well honey, I am not doing something last minute you gotta give me at least 24-48 hour notice.

The 15 guys I winked at last night...I got nothing! Nobody has winked back or messaged me. What do I do? I guess I should start sending messages?? This is so weird..who woulda thought I would be doing on-line dating?? WEIRD.

Updated.

So Mark (aka the cute 27 year old) asked me if I would be free to hang out when I come back. So perhaps a first date?? Ahhh!!

Ok this is a creepy message from Pierre-I guess a little about me might help I moved to NYC about 5 years ago..before that I live in London, Paris, Geneva. Mother is italian and french, father is belgian. I grew up between Geneva and Paris. I'm mixed and enjoy meeting people with various backgrounds. These days, I do a fair amount of traveling which I very much enjoy, but asl go to FL quite often to escape the NYC cold. I am just back from 2 weeks in Europe and Asia..it was great but tiring. How was your weekend? I went to Florida for 3 days last week and had to come back tonight :( I wish I could have stayed for the weekend, but have to do immigration stuff on friday :(:(. Talk to you soon.

Ok first off pal- 33 years old...a bit older for me. But its ok I won't discriminate. Secondly, wtf? Did I ask for a life story?? I mean seriously...what happened to the whole "hey how are you?" instead of telling me your life story! ughhhh.

SOO let me tell you about my day-

Work was uneventful and it was so nice!!! I work with these two girls Amber and Jessie...its kinda sad at times. They are so close and I feel so left out when they are always together. I always see them talking at work via IM'ing, or going to the bathroom together. But I'm trying so hard not to let it get to me nor take it personally. I have to keep myself busy. Can't let them bring me down!!!!

I am so twisted...I worked out hard core today after work and I swung by Crumbs (a cupcake place..that is about 500 calories in each one) I'm a true fatty.

Walking out

So this morning when I left my apartment I realized oh my god what happens if a guy see's me on the street is on match.com?? I started freaking out a little because I felt like I was getting stared out. Maybe its my imagination?? I cannot believe I am signed up for match.com!

What do I do if I run into a guy that like winks at me equivalent to a poke on Facebook, or the one that messages you? I am so worried that I am going to get stopped at Trader Joes and a guy say "hey I just winked at you..how you doin?" I would be beyond mortified..or maybe what happens if someone approaches me at the bar? How do I respond to that?

And another point- what happens if I go on a date and the guy does NOT look like the guy in the picture. How do I react to that?? I mean do I say your picture lied? And what about myself? What happens if the guy says umm your much prettier in the picture compared in person.

Last point- what happens if I meet the perfect guy? How do you tell your family and friends oh by the way I met him on MATCH.COM! Can you imagine the comments and remarks I may get? Am I being silly and doing this??

So far the responses have been pretty good. I can't decide if I should start prowling on guys or do I wait for them to come to me? What is the proper etiquette about on-line dating? I guess I should start winking at guys and see what may happen. I think I also may spice things up and find some creepy guys hahaha :)!

Mrk- I responded to his e-mail granted he is 27 thats ok...I mean a it older is fine..more experience right?? Well, he asked me what I have planned for this week..so lets hope for a date!! His pictures are pretty cute and I mean who knows right??

Man- Ok not gonna lie this is the first time I've like talked to an asian. Hahahaha how awful is that? I mean lets give him the benefit of the doubt. I am a bit hesitant because he messaged me at like 2 PM and I was at work. Does this guy not have a job?? No job no date lol. He Im"ed me..and said "hey cutie" I can't...I just ugh...hahahaha

Matt- He asked me what I was up to this weekend so maybe drinks?? He is SO my type!!! Cute, preppy, tall!!, not gonna lie he seem cocky/prick like...errr whatevs

Butta- He seems like an interesting character I can't tell if he is "hood" or a frat boy. He is a 6'3 ginger!!! I mean no problems I have an open mind! But again he messaged me earlier in the day...so what does he do?? Not sure...

Tonight a guy named Chris IM's me. Problems and red flags: He's 40 YEARS OLD, doesn't live in the city, is "hollering" at me. Ok match.com wtf? where is this age filter thing?? And secondly don't talk to me you can be my father freak.

So I winked:
at a northern gentleman (25 finance, super prep and so cute!)
jackattack (eh..kinda attractive, finance, 26)
africalover (worked in the peace corp and is now in finance, really cute and clearly has a good heart)
will (super cute, finance, 25)
mtl (he's worked abroad in china-such as hong kong, shanghai as a banker 26, SUPER cute!!)
italian love (OMG so hot!!! european!!)
Joe (he's asian!, use to be a finance guy and now owns his own photography business in nyc and nj, loved his pics, really cute, seems down to earth)
PJ (is 26, really cute!!, but i'm a bit worried...under about his date he put african american, native american and thats it..soo problemo??)
Dave (seems like a sweet guy as well...world traveler!, but again..has a thing for african american and hispanics...uhhh)

Its official...

So its official...

I am a part of the Match.com community! Woo!

I've gotten some really random weirdos. Let me give you a taste of it-

Niceguy said "Your BEAUTIFUL. Want to talk to a nice guy from NYC?" ok listen up buddy thats not how you start a conversation. If i want someone like that I would go to a bar and wear a low cut top and say "does anyone wanna go home and bang me?" step it up..and plus he isn't that attractive. I'm sorry I have standards.

This reminded me of a night a Joshua Tree. This 5'4 guy approached my roommate and i and I was NOT interested in him. First off I am 5'6 and wearing 3 inch heels. I completely ignore him as he chats it up with my roommate and she pulls me aside and says "he is so into you!! He thinks your absolutely gorgeous." Ok listen not trying to sound bitchy but had the guy been maybe 5 inches taller we would have chatted it up. Hence why my match.com profile says about him: TALL!

Andy said "Hi there how are you doing? My name is andy and I recently moved to Seattle not too long ago. I am trying to meet new friends and adjust to my new life. Would you know if there are fun things to do out there from nyc?" Where should I even being in this message? I am living in New York..how the hell would I know whats going on in SEATTLE, WASHINGTON?!?! I've never even been there!! That is ridiculous I tell ya.

Matt said "hey there really random are you free for a drink tonight? I just have nothing to dooooooo" Do i seem like the kind of gal that just jumps into a date that quickly? Shouldn't he be trying to build some type of rapport before asking me to do drinks?? I mean confusing!!! But not gonna like he's so my type (preppy, LOVES BOATING!!!, cute, athletic) and you know what? He seems to be like a prick..so clearly I am interested..wtf is wrong with me??

Mark said "Hey there! I would like to start out and introduce myself and say hi. I've been catching up on my Mad Men lately but I'm sure the advertising culture is different compared to what it was like in the 60's hahaha. I work in the financial analyst industry and actually follow the advertising agencies. Quite interesting. Hope you had a great weekend. What part of the city do you live in?" NOW that was a gentleman and he seems legit. He's cute actually a bit older 27...err but who knows right? The fact that he took the time to read my profile was nice...

Musicncharts said "Hey i loved your profile you seem like a lot of fun and really down to earth. I grew up in New York but moved to CT 8 years after graduate school. I love to laugh, go out, listen to music, work out. Music and art galleries are a passion of mine. I work in finance management and slowly finishing up on my second masters. I also enjoy improving my house as well. I would love to hear more about you and I can send you pic as well." Match.com needs to have a filter where I don't want to talk to guys older than 30. He's 35. First off, he doesn't have a profile picture..which really worries me because well...I don't need to finish that sentence. Secondly, the type of "girl he is looking for" is ASIAN ughhh I hate it when guys have that asian fetish going on. Really..do you like me or my culture?? Am I just some freaky desirable thing to you?? NO THANK YOU!

Thats just a taste from SOME of the messages...I'll write more later! Toodles.

First Time

So this is my first entry as a blogger. Well, I guess I should just cut to the chase and not bullshit around.

As a recent newbie to New York I've realized how lonely it can be. I've tried putting myself out there with my friends and their friends. But in such a large city one can get lost in the commotion of it all. I don't want to rely on my friends because I want to branch out and meet my own. I guess thats where my independence comes into play. I miss all of my friends and family down South. At times I second guess my decision to moving to New York. Am I happy? Do I think I'd be happier back home? Do I regret this? Am I being ridiculous? Everyday is a different answer to those questions...I wish someone would have told me how hard it was in New York. But one thing for certain- I don't regret moving up here. I guess its all a part of growing up. I know it will take time and I just have to learn how to be patient.

How long do I have to be patient for? Three months? Six months? A YEAR?!

I've been really proactive and trying to keep a positive attitude. I'm not a really religious person so I've been going to church..do I believe in everything they say hell no! I just enjoy listening to the sermon and its nice to have some sort of routine/structure in my life. Today's passage was about Joy three key points (what is joy, how joy is different for christians, and where to find it). It was a hit! You have to go through suffering and pain to really appreciate the joy around your life. Thats what makes it special. I guess you have to take the good and bad right? Its a balance.

I also joined Meetup.com- which is a website for people to meet up and share their hobbies with others. I haven't gone to any of the meetings yet..but I am and will! I've signed up to do movies and such. So we will see.

Now this is the juicy part- So not only have I decided to write a blog BUT I have decided to join match.com! Gah...that is so not me either! I am doing this for entertainment purposes..and I'm not gonna like maybe I'll get a good couple of dates out of it. I am not having any high expectations...nor will I say what my user name is. I hope to share my experience with everyone about this.

This entry is about first time for everything....Do you remember your first time kissing a guy? Or maybe your first boyfriend? What about your first best friend?

Looking back I feel so old...My first kiss wasn't till high school!! Wowza...and my first boyfriend? ahhh good ole smitty silverburg ;) and my best friend Andrea Tutu.

Hope you will enjoy reading this blog!!