Friendship

This weekend has been crazy! My company was sponsoring a huge event and well I had to attend them...and lets just say I don't regret it :)! I got to hug Oprah Winfrey, pretty much touching distance to Mary J Blige, Jennifer Hudson, Dr. Oz, and others.

But I am physically and mentally drained right now...so sleepy!!

So weekend updates

Friday: went for a run with Amber and I told her about how I joined match.com and the first thing she said to me was "can we please tell jessie??" and its like wtf?? I am confiding in you and you shouldn't want to blab to another person. That's just not realy nice to be quite honest. My opinion that is...and at night I met up my group of guy friends and my roommate came along! It was our first bonding experience..she is such a sweetie. She took me to a party with her friends and we had so much fun :):) stayed out waaaaay too late because I had to get up so early the next day!! Mark texted me and wanted to meet up..but he passed out. Erick called me on his way back down south for mothers day but I got his voicemail when I returned it.

Saturday: Work event all day and took a nap when i got back. Mark texted me later on and asked me what I was up to..and I told him nothing but not wanting to drink because I had to wake up really early the next day. He agreed and didn't want to drink either. But he was meeting a friend for dinner and wanted to meet up afterwards. After texting back and forth he suggested a movie at his place...ok to be quite honest I was really hesistant..he seems like a nice guy but god forbidden something could have happened to me. He could have been a crazy lunatic or something!! But from what I knew of him...I went hahaha. Good decision?? I'm not quite sure...I wasn't OVERLY excited to be going to his place because I was scared he was gonna make a move and try to hook up with me. Ok so the layout of his apt (he lives by himself-HUGE plus!) he has a couch and a chair. I purposely chose the chair because I didn't want to sit on the couch with him...ya know incase he tried to make a move on me or something! But it was fun the conversation was good and I always have fun. The va va voom is still not there but I'm gonna stick this one out?

Sunday: woke up at 5:30 am for a charity walk. EXHAUSTED! Nothing really special happened today...but I went to church and got there a bit early. I was there alone and sitting by myself there was a girl behind me and I thought why not? Why shouldn't I try and meet someone new? Do something new for a change..so I turned around and said Hi whats your name? And we had such a great conversation we sat next to each other at church. Got to really know her and we are in the same boat! New to NYC only shes in culinary school (how cool right??) and we exchanged numbers and said we are so hanging out!! I'm really glad I met her :) and I even said I'm not coming onto you and she goes good..hahaha good laugh!! It wasn't awkward either. The pastors sermon was incredible to say the least. His topic of choice was Friendship. Here are the key points that I walked away with:

1) Potential friendship is built between common interest there are TWO things to transform a potential friendship into a good friendship: Transparent vulnerability and loyalty.

2) Those two things will automatically change any potential friendship into a lasting one...but heres the problem. In today's society not everyone can give those two things TOGETHER..there is an unbalance to it. In New York its hard because everyone wants to protect themselves and not get hurt.

3) There are two types of social groups in NYC one being co-workers and people in the same network (career wise) and social group ie romantic interests. There isn't an happy medium why is that? Like I said in point two people don't want to be vulnerable and lose. They gotta protect themselves.

4) A good friend isn't just there for you when your happy, they are there for you when its the hardest time to face the scary/hard things in life. Kinda like how God is there for you.

5) This was my favorite he said "we are hypercritical self imaged puzzles...we have shame, pride, superficial, etc within us...we let society dictate us...and that needs to stop"

I really enjoyed todays sermon because I've been feeling like in the dumps lately. I feel alone and sometimes regret moving to nyc. After hearing his sermon I realized everything was gonna be ok...it was very reassuring :)